Latin for "All for one...one for all" ...impressed? (you should be...I can Google with the best of them!)
Do you know how hard agreement really is? Get 5 colleagues together and ask the simplest question...
"Where does everyone want to go for lunch?"
High powered exectutives that just made billion dollar decisions take 15 minutes to come to agreement...thankfully, in marriage...it only "takes two to make a thing go right" but The Power of Agreement is easier said than done in marriage, too...(don't agree with me...they may be reading over your shoulder!)
I once heard someone say, "It doesn't matter how many people agree with you as long as the right person does". There is a supreme power of true agreement.
Genesis 11:6 says that
"Where people are one (in unison) that nothing they have
imagined to do can be withheld from them."
Agreement requires you to communicate openly, to plan strategically, and appreciate the mutual support frequently...yes, that's gratitude - in good times and bad! We need our spouses to understand to be in a position "to stand" with us.
Natalie and I have have been happily (ecstatically!) married 27 years and the level of success we have enjoyed the last 13 years makes it look like a carefree "charmed" life. Nothing could be further from the truth. We have had to fight for every victory and I can now say in hindsight, that I would not change a thing!
As I met my wife when we were 14 and I knew right away she was the one. She was beautiful (still is), sweet, quiet and unassuming back then...but make no mistake... my wife is a WARRIOR!!!
I bet your spouse is too...given the opportunity to prove it!
In the 3rd year of marriage after we lost our first house, we sat down and wrote out three core agreements. I believe in them, and think that if you cater them to your house and live and die by them, you can build the Power of Agreement.
Here are our agreements:
#1 - I agree not to use threats and ultimatums when things aren't going the way I want them to.
Fine print: This includes using money or intimacy as "weapons" (grown folks know what I mean!)
#2 - I agree that we won't expose each other's weaknesses and our challenges to others - yes, including family!
Fine Print: Keep your business off of Facebook please!
#3 - I agree to fight - not each other. We will fight the circumstances that we are facing and continue fighting as a team...until we win!
Fine Print: When you win...then expose your testimony to bless and encourage others...
that is what I am trying to do here!
During our highest points of struggle, my wife and I remained "quiet". Afterward, I would tell people we were not being secretive...we were being sacred.
I know that for some, the last week of Daily Sales Crumbs may have seemed obscure and I hope you never need the advice given. But some of you needed this and should go home tonight and show this to your spouse, I would bet that some version of this is what your spouse has been longing to hear.
The Power of Agreement multiplies effort, authority, and helps you stay focused on the battle in the field and not create friendly fire at home. I know that once you engage the Power of Agreement things will get better...quickly!
When people see you and your spouse, they should see...
Two for One!
Until tomorrow, I wish you Money, Power, Success!
Next Time: The Journey
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